Short, tall, light, dark, caf, decaf, low-fat, non-fat… it just takes a few seconds to pick from a few options to get your perfect coffee. Only if it were that easy to choose your job just like that.
Some jobs are fun, some not so much. Others require a lot of effort, time, great responsibility, or even risks. I have a job description for you, and let’s see if you would choose it or not.
This job requires you to be a good cook, to have doctor skills, sales expertise, to be a safe driver, a personal assistant available at all times, a patient teacher, a wise manager, a creative beautician, and a clear and persuasive communicator. You have to love the object of your work, and be patient even when you don’t feel like it. You need to be on call for work duties all day long, and often at night. You have no time off, and you work 24/7. You don’t have holidays off and you can’t complain about it. It’s a lifetime commitment, with the minimum contract being 18 years. Anyone qualified and interested? Oh, and by the way, you don’t get paid for it. Still interested?
Moms, does this sound familiar to you? Moms truly wear many hats. And I don’t mean the fancy hats at the Kentucky Derby horse race. How many times do moms cook for the hungry mouths in the house, tend to the sick, try to convince them to do this or that, drive them to school and soccer practices, do the grocery shopping, teach them as they go through the “why” phase, manage time between work and family, bathes and dresses kids and braids hair…and does her best to make it all work as she juggles five things at the same time.
So many times we take moms for granted. Because we grow up seeing our moms doing all these with a happy face or at times even with a weary face, we are just used to them not giving up and doing their job of being a mom without complaining. That’s why it’s so important to remember them and appreciate the hard work they did and still do.
In many parts of the world, moms are celebrated on various days, but most commonly in the months of March and May. As a lot of countries are celebrating the upcoming International Women’s Day on March 8th, some nations celebrate not just women in general, but they use it as a day to remember and appreciate moms.
There are around 40 countries that celebrate Mother’s Day in March (including Romania, the UK, Nigeria, Russia etc.) and over 80 countries celebrating it in May (the USA, Canada, Turkey, Australia, Brazil, the Philippines, Kenya, India, etc.). Mother’s Day originated in North America, to celebrate motherhood and the influence moms have had in the society. It started at the beginning of the 20th century, initially as a mingled event fighting for women’s rights and time of appreciating what mothers do. Today, March 8 has shed its political flavor and has become simply an occasion for men to express their love for the women in their life, and in some countries for children to appreciate their moms.
Rene Descartes said once ‘I think, therefore I exist’; I would go on and say ‘I exist, therefore I have a mom’. Each and every person in this world came from a mom. It’s true, because we live in an imperfect world, that some moms don’t deserve the title just because they brought somebody into this life, but whoever cares day and night for little ones from infancy into adulthood have earned not just a title, but special appreciation. Here are some tips for adult children on how to make your mom, or the women in your life feel special this mother’s day (and every day):
- Give credit to whom it is due. Say thank you for the small things, for the big things and for the impact she had on your life.
- Get into the habit of calling her on a regular basis. Take the initiative. Show her you grew up, not grew further away.
- Send her flowers through a flower shop service, or ask a friends’ help, in case you cannot deliver them yourself.
- Send an encouraging message. Emails will do, but written cards are even better, showing a greater effort.
- Take them on a unique escape, just you and mom. Let her be pampered with some time away from and caring for everyone else.
- Get her a nice gift that says ‘I love you’
- Treat her with respect and gratitude throughout the year, not just on special days – that’s the best gift of all!
- Listen to her when she talks with you – and listen with your face… not while working on your computer or watching TV.
- Have fun and laugh together. If this doesn’t come naturally to you, watch a comedy together and have a blast.
- Make an effort to spend quality time with her, for no one knows what tomorrow may bring.
- Make the most of each opportunity you meet or talk. Live a life without regret. When that day comes when she is no longer on this earth, will you be able to say ‘I have no regrets, I did my best to show love, care and appreciation’?
The list could go on and on with ways you could let your mom or the women that impacted your life know they are special. You might say, in my country we don’t celebrate Mother’s Day just yet. Well, let this be a reminder for some and a wake-up call for others to appreciate the sacrifices moms made raising us, the love they poured on us and the impact they had on us to become who we are today.
Happy Mother’s Day MOM!!! & Happy Women’s Day to all the women in my life!